This weeks blog is close to my heart. I
have two children who are 10 and 13 years old and have experienced both
traditional and cyber bullying. Both forms are hurtful and belittling and I
believe as long as there are different personalities in the world there will
always be bullying, but it is our responsibility to try and control it.
Everyone knows what traditional bullying is and if you haven’t
experienced it then you are lucky. It is when someone harasses, threatens or
embarrasses another person. The only difference between traditional bullying
and cyber bullying is that cyber bullying occurs online.
Because cyber bullying is on the internet it
is harder avoid, it spreads faster and is very public. Often perpetrators can
hide behind a false or even stolen identity so you don’t know who your real
enemy is. You then question everyone and this can be emotionally destroying.
I live in an area surrounded by schools and
I think the youth suicide rate has reached epidemic proportions. I cannot find any figures
on these rates but the comparison between suicides I knew of when growing up
(zero) compared to now (2-3 per year) is a significant increase. I think the correlation between
Internet use and these suicide figures is hard to ignore. Further studies and
coping techniques are needed for the future, one study found..
Students who were cyber bullied reported feelings of
sadness, anxiety, and fear, and an inability to concentrate, which affected
their grades. Youth who were bullied online were more likely to have skipped
school, to have detentions or suspensions, or to have carried a weapon to
school.
Schools provide great programs such as
Bullybusters that educate the children on bullying. Often the solution is to
seek help from a teacher or parent. Yet are the parents equipped with all the
answers? The United Nations Convention of the Rights of the Child (UNCRC) says
adults are;
responsible to protect children from all forms of
physical and mental violence, injury or abuse.
We are the pioneers of a new era of
children and adolescents who are regular produsers of the Internet. They live
in the cyberworld, which is a world that is more familiar to them than us. As
the UN says it is our responsibility to protect our children so ultimately we
need the tools to help our children. This can be very difficult to negotiate.
Even cyber bullying victim celebrity Charlotte Dawson found it hard to find the
right solution to dealing with cyberbullying. So the solution for our
childrens’ future needs to be achievable and current.
REFERENCES
Beran and Li,
2005 T. Beran, Q. Li Cyber-harassment: A study of a new method for
an old behavior. Journal of Educational Computing Research, 32 (3) (2005), pp.
265–277
Bullybusters. Kids Matter. Australia Government Department of Health.
Viewed 9 February <http://www.kidsmatter.edu.au/primary/programs/bully-busters>
United Nations 2003-2005. Enable. Viewed 9
February
<http://www.un.org/esa/socdev/enable/comp501.htm>
Hi Nicole, you touch my heart with this blog. I have been a victim of traditional bullying and some of those events still haunt me to this day. I feel that with cyberbullying it will never be controlled and will only continue to grow. Our young today fear nothing and the internet is a place where they can hide and not be seen from the rest of world to who they really are. Schools and parents can only police so much and yet still get the blame when things go wrong.
ReplyDeleteYouth suicide is something that I come across regularly in my line of work. From my experience it has been a combination of parental bullying/physical and mental abuse and cyberbullying that has forced them to complete suicide. This is something that I will never get used to.
Thanks for commenting and sharing your experience Nikki.
ReplyDeleteYou are right action is needed. I heard the sad news that Charlotte Dawson was found dead in her home today really hit home with me because of this blog. The reports say she suffered from depression but I am sure it was fuelled by the cyberbullying. We need all the qualified psychologists out there to give us clear guidelines on how to deal with these bullies - confront? intervention? ignore? charge?. HELP IS NEEDED